2024-06-11 18:54:00
During my experience as an engineering manager for a bit over 2 years I have found 1-1 meetings difficult to manage __at scale__ .
They have always been the highlight of my week, best way to connect with people, understand their ambitions, learn from them and more imnportantly as a manager help them grow in their career path.
These meetings should not to be treated as status updates which can easily become an invasive practice by managers.
> [!Warning] Please note that:
> This article does not argue with the necessity of the 1-1 meetings but aims to show why it is not the best practice in many cases.
### Equal Access to Information:
I believe in providing equal access to information for everyone.
I prefer to share challenges, problems, solutions, and directions with the entire team at once.
So that I can ensure everyone is “singing off of the same song sheet” without privileged access to information.
### Empowerment Through Transparency:
Sharing information openly empowers the team.
It ensures all team members are aligned and can contribute to solving problems collectively.
### Feedback as Collective Learning:
I prefer to provide feedback openly in front of everyone, turning it into a learning opportunity for the entire team.
This way we can view feedback as a way to teach reasoning and decision-making collectively.
I believe that learning from others’ mistakes is more efficient than learning from one’s own mistakes.
### Avoiding Miscommunication:
I discourage my peers the scenario where feedback or directives are shared privately and **then reinterpreted inaccurately by others.**
It helps ensure clarity by having everyone hear the same message directly.
### Case Study Approach to Mistakes:
The mistakes or issues can be treated as case studies for the whole group, maximizing learning from individual errors or misjudgments.
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#### Shortly to summarize my experience about this:
> [!info] 1-1s are a good practice when
> - Building trust and relationships
> - Used for personalized coaching and development
> - Confidential or sensitive issues (hoping you don't have these in your team)
> - Detailed feedback and personal growth
> - Clarity and alignment on personal objectives
> [!danger] They are not a good practice when
> - Sharing information that needs to be broad. It can easily lead to inefficiency
> - Collective learning and resoning: Don't let the team to miss on the opportunity to learn from each other
> - Promoting open feedback culture
> - Time efficiency in large teams